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Teens and Oral Sex: It’s Not Safe
Dangers of Oral Sex
Tips for Parents
- Be an askable parent. Tell your children it’s natural for them to have questions about sex.
- Listen more than you talk. Encourage your children to share their concerns and experiences.
- Look for teachable moments. “Watch television shows with teens, see what they are reading in magazines—and that becomes a forum for communications,” says Jennifer Manlove, senior research associate for Child Trends, a nonprofit research center in Washington, DC.
- Answer questions simply and honestly. Present the facts, share your values, and direct teens to additional resources when necessary.
- Coach kids well. Help your children learn how to get themselves out of risky situations. Reinforce their right to make their own decisions and resist peer pressure.
- Stay involved. Teens need supervision—and guidance—as much as their younger siblings. Though they may not act like it, they really do crave, and listen to, their parents’ advice.
Advocates for Youth http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/
Campaign for Our Children http://www.cfoc.org/
Planned Parenthood Federation of America, Inc. http://www.plannedparenthood.org/teens/
Canadian Association of Family Physicians http://www.cfpc.ca/
Canadian Public Health Health Unit http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/pau-uap/fitness/
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